Think twice before you post racy photos online

From MY PAPER, My Say

WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 19, 2008

 

I REFER to the commentary, “What sexy shots say about you” (my paper, Nov 18).

 

I share similar thoughts with the writer about women posting suggestive photos of themselves online on social-networking sites such as Friendster and Facebook.

 

Such sites serve the purpose of letting people network, share information with friends or colleagues, or are a cheap, efficient channel of communication for people separated by distance.

 

It is also a means through which people seek out new friends, or even soulmates.

 

Networking sites should not be misused. Reports abound about sexual predators, who are mostly men, using such sites to search for and communicate with victims.

 

Photos that are posted on the websites could be an extra incentive for these individuals to be more active in their search.

 

Let’s use the Internet wisely, especially for purposes such as increasing your knowledge, furthering your career and exchanging information.

 

Posting suggestive photos not only invites trouble, but can also be cause for others to see you in a negative light, and can be damaging to your reputation.

 

Just imagine someone who has a respectable profession, such as a teacher, doctor, lawyer or executive, posting such photos online.

 

What if your friends, relatives and colleagues came across these photos? What would they think of you and your family?

 

I suggest that everyone think twice before posting such photos on profiles and blogs.

 

The Internet is becoming a “smaller” place, and more people have access to it. My advice is to be wise, smart and extra careful when online.

 

 

Mr Muhammad Dzul Azhan Haji Sahban 

 

What sexy shots say about you

From MY PAPER, My Lifestyle

TUESDAY NOVEMBER 18, 2008

 

ON POSTING SUGGESTIVE PHOTOS ONLINE

JILL ALPHONSO

 

WHEN a naked shot a girl posted of herself on social-networking site Friendster surfaced two weeks ago, it created an uproar in the online community.

 

The picture clearly shows the girl bending over, exposing her bottom and her left breast. On Stomp, a post about it got 45 pages of comments at press time, with some calling her a “slut” and accusing her of being “cheap”.

 

Others weren’t fazed.

 

“What’s the big issue?” asked Stomper Goodcitizen001. “She made her own choice – why bother so much?”

 

I’m of that mindset as well. If someone chooses to post a nude picture of themselves online, that’s their business. (The Friendster account in question, by the way, has been closed.)

 

What I do find disturbing is that naked profile pictures seem to be a “natural” progression from the sexy profile pictures that seem to be the norm these days.

 

Many profile pictures, particularly those of women, often tend towards the risque. Some show them in suggestive positions, or in clothing that leaves little to the imagination.

 

To most, sexy, or even nude, pictures are just another way of saying: “Hey, I’m hot.” But what they’re really saying is: “Hey, I’m up for grabs.”

 

Posting them online is broadcasting that message to the entire online community and, sadly, there are those who are naïve enough to not be aware of what they’re doing.

 

One friend of mine posted a picture of herself kneeling on a bed in a skimpy bikini. Even though she had posted it as a joke, it was reason enough for some of our friends to take her aside and tell her to consider the implications of her actions.

 

“We all know you’re not a slut,” they told her. “But just know that that’s the message you’re putting out.” She pulled the pictures from her account.

 

And posting revealing pictures may be telling of your mental state as well.

 

A friend of mine who lives in the United States posted pictures of herself lounging in her room while dressed in only a very transparent nightie. While beautifully shot, they verged on soft porn.

 

A mutual friend of ours sent me a concerned e-mail message to ask if I knew what was going on with her.

 

“She doesn’t seem to be in a very good place – the pictures tell the whole story,” he said. He was right – her relationship was on the fritz and her job was in jeopardy at the time. She seemed then to be misguidedly looking for some attention through sexual means.

 

A revealing picture in an online profile points to the fact that – let’s say it plainly – you are inviting sex.

 

I acknowledge that for the most part, those who post those pictures are looking for play partners, and often do so on sites like Adult FriendFinder.

 

So, hey, if that’s what you’re after, and you’re legal, then it’s bombs away with the nudie shots.

 

But what’s next – hardcore sex pictures on Facebook? After all, that seems to be the next step after nude pictures.

 

And here’s the thing – at the end of the day, being naked is still a private thing.

 

Should you post revealing shots of yourself in the very public online domain, it makes people wonder why you would want to do that and what exactly it is that you’re trying to prove.

 

jilla@sph.com.sg

 

Why the Danes are so happy...

From TODAY, News

Friday November 21, 2008

 

A history of defeat resulting in the birth of a small nation-state was ironically what helped the people of Denmark become such happy people, said Mr Joergen Oerstroem Moeller.

 

Describing the Danes as a “tribe”, Mr Moeller – formerly the Danish ambassador to Singapore and now a visiting research fellow at the Institute of Southeast Asian Studies – said that being a small, uni-culture society pushed together by defeat created a strong sense of trust between people.

 

And it is this trust that fosters the sense of security which encourages risk-taking and innovation in the Danes.

 

“It encourages people to be creative and to dare to try something bold,” he said, adding that this has helped the country stay competitive.

 

The sense of trust is reinforced by a government rated top in the world for being corruption-free, as well as a strong social welfare system that the Danes “are very happy to pay high taxes for”, said Mr Moeller.

 

Political parties have tried and failed to campaign on platforms of reducing taxes and raising income.

 

“They try to say, you can have strong social welfare with lower taxes, but the Danes are too smart for that.

 

“They know that if you want something, you have to pay for it.”

 

The downside is that such a society means immigrants have to adapt or be excluded.

 

“This will have some impact on the inflow of talent,” said Mr Moeller.

 

 “But I think there is a gradual opening up, even if it’s going to be acrimonious at times.” 

 

Revelation 3:8

Revelations 3:8

When God leads you to the edge of the cliff, trust Him fully and let go, only 1 of 2 things will happen, either He'll catch you when you fall, or He'll teach you how to fly! 'The power of one sentence! God is going to shift things around for you and let things work in your favor in Jesus name Amen. If you believe, it will work. God closes doors and no man can open & God opens doors and no man can close. If you need God to open, some doors for you...send this to encourage people. Have a blessed day and remember that you are a blessing !...

You are truly loved and covered in prayers.

JESUS IS LORD OVER ALL YOU ARE GOING THROUGH NOW, THEREFORE BE STRONG IN HIM.

Do they know about sex?

From TODAY, News

Thursday November 20, 2008

 

Sexual Responsibility Survey

Findings show women are ignorant about contraception, risks of getting pregnant

 

Alicia Wong

alicia@mediacorp.com.sg

 

A 20-year-old patient stepped into Dr Janet Lee’s clinic complaining that she had not had her period for six months.

 

Upon examination, the doctor discovered that her patient was six months’ pregnant. The young woman should have been able to detect fetal movements by then, said Dr Lee, but the patient had not noticed any symptoms.

 

In another instance, a 16-yearold mistook her pregnancy as gastric pain. “She said: ‘How could it be? It was my first and only time.’ But with each instance of unprotected sex, you can always get pregnant,” stressed Dr Lee.

 

The two cases lend anecdotal support to the results of an annual survey which showed that while fewer younger women were sexually active compared to those polled last year, their knowledge of the risks of unplanned pregnancies had dropped as well.

 

Conducted by the Obstetrical and Gynaecological Society of Singapore (OGSS) and pharmaceutical firm Bayer Schering Pharma Singapore, the survey found only 55 per cent of women realised the chance of getting pregnant, if one has consistent unprotected sex throughout a month, is 40 per cent. In last year’s survey, 75 per cent of respondents were aware of such a risk.

 

Dr Lee, from Temasek Medical Centre, said: “There is a steep drop in women’s knowledge of unwanted pregnancy risk.”

 

Dr Beh Suan Tiong, the OGSS’ president, explained that despite public education efforts, people continue to believe that “it won’t happen to me”.

 

In its third year, the “Say Yes!” to Sexual Responsibility survey aims to discover young women’s contraception knowledge and sexual practices.

 

Of the 814 respondents, who were between 20 and 35 years old, 61 per cent were sexually active — 14 per cent less than last year.

 

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At least one in four sexually active women in Singapore may be contributing to the rising abortion rate.

Dr Beh Suan Tiong, OGSS president

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Among them, 74 per cent were not prepared for pregnancy, but only six in 10 were using reliable contraception, such as condoms. A significant 26 per cent, three per cent more than last year, were not using contraception at all.

 

“It means at least one in four sexually active women in Singapore may be contributing to the rising abortion rate,” warned Dr Beh.

 

He sees about 20 cases of unplanned pregnancies a month, of which about three-quarters end in an abortion. There are about 12,000 abortions a year in Singapore.

 

Women continue to have misconceptions that the condom is more reliable than the pill, and that the pill has undesirable side-effects, the survey found. In fact, the pill offers 99 per cent reliability, while a condom has a failure rate of 2 to 15 per  cent, Dr Beh said. Modern pills also do not lead to weight gain, added Dr Lee.

 

The OGSS attributed such misconceptions to a lack of education at a national level. The authorities’ intensive efforts to encourage people to use condoms to prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases have shown success, it said.

 

Both doctors advised couples to use both condoms and oral contraceptives to prevent unwanted pregnancies and protect themselves against sexually transmitted diseases.

 

In another poll of 240 students, aged between 15 and 20, respondents lacked basic sexual health knowledge. About 60 per cent thought douching, urinating and exercising could prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex.

 

Such a lack of knowledge comes as a surprise, said Dr Beh. “If they bother to google it, I’m sure you can get a reasonable amount of knowledge.”

 

Schools should hire health professionals to teach this topic, he suggested, since some teachers may be shy to broach the issue.

 

The OGSS plans to target students and young adults in its public forums on issues such as adolescent health next year, said Dr Beh.

Atlantis Hotel in Dubai - Wow!

 

 


1.
Water world ... the Atlantis Hotel in Dubai , one of the world's most anticipated hotels, finally opens its doors on September 24. Situated on 113 acres of the Palm Jumeirah, the hotel boasts over 1539 rooms.
 

2. Water bed ... the Neptune and Poseidon Suites are exclusive to Atlantis, with both bedroom and bath views directly into the mesmerising underwater world of the Ambassador Lagoon.

 

 

 

 

3. Sea view ... the Ambassador Lagoon is a window into the wonders of the ocean, and the centre-piece of Atlantis, with over 250 species of fish and sea creatures.

 

 

 

4. Fish surprise ... keeping with he water theme, the Lost Chamber is a maze of underwater halls and tunnels under the Ambassador Lagoon with over 65,000 fish.
 

5. See sea food ... Ossiano is home to a three-star Michelin chef, and offers gourmet seafood with views of the exotic marine life of the Ambassador Lagoon.

 

 

 

6. Pleased to meet you ... Dolphin Bay is a four-and-a-half hectare lush tropical setting where you get the chance to meet the colourful characters in their natural habitat.
 

7. Big dipper ... Aquaventure is a 42-acre waterpark with the Zigguret Centerpiece that touts a 27.5m vertical drop.

 

 

 

 

8. Shark tank ... after the Ziggurat, you will emerge slowly through the lagoon at Shark Attack.
 

9. All washed up ... the Rapids is a 2.3km path of tidal river with one metre waves though a lush tropical landscape.

 

 

 

 

10. Shark proof ... you can also experience the Shark Tank from the dry, and more comfortable, viewing chamber.

 

 

 

 

11. Bar view ... sip cocktails in the oceanic space of Barazura and enjoy views overlooking Palm Jumeirah.

 

 

 

 

12. Grand view ... the Grand Lobby makes a colourful first impression.

 

 

 

 

 

13. Bath time ... the spa experience includes two hours of spa treatments, your own private time in a jetted tub and access to both indoor and outdoor relaxation areas.

 

 

 

 

14. Spa service ... the Royal Spa Suite offers treatments designed to individual needs, and a spa menu delivered by private butler service.
 
 
15.
Grand designs ... each of the 1373 spacious guest rooms and 166 suites is designed with subtle oceanic and Arabic influences.

  

 

 

 

 

 
 

 

 

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Difference between boys & girls

 

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Temptations, Can't Control!!!

 

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How the beggars' open wounds are created

 

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Such good con artistry !